Dec. 2020: How to Feel Better
Starting September 2020, I will be writing a monthly series around different topic. The goal is to walk you through a weekly process to help alleviate concerns surrounding the topic of the month. December’s theme is how to feel better, and this week you will learn how to apply an emotional framework to help manage your life.
Part III was critical to wrapping up this series. You learned that it is important to separate out the facts in the external world from your self-talk, i.e., fiction. Remember, just because you believe something to be true, doesn’t mean it is!
When you can separate out the external facts from your narrative, or self-talk, only then can you take a look at your beliefs. Thus, you can decide which beliefs are helpful and which are not. Once you decide which of those beliefs are holding you back or causing self-destruction, you can work to change them.
But, how do you know which beliefs are holding you back? How do you decipher between differing thoughts and their consequences? That is where the STEAR emotional framework comes in handy!
STEAR Emotional Framework
The framework works as such. Your thoughts generate energy (or emotions), your energy fuels your actions, and your actions create reality:
Situation: objective, neutral fact
Thought: the meaning you assign to your situation
Energy: the feeling, or emotion, your thought generates
Action: behaviors fueled by your energy
Reality: consequences of all your actions
In Part V, you will see demonstrations of how to apply the STEAR emotional framework to your life.
Helpful Hint #4: The STEAR emotional framework will help you manage your energy and behaviors.