Post #65 Practicing Constraint
I know you want to experience the joys and offerings of the college life. But, hear me out, you cannot do it all (see Post #9). You are given a set amount of time to allocate. Part of your challenge is to prioritize most important tasks to least important. If you are trying to do too much, please read this post to help yourself hit the reset button.
The Cost of Trying to do Too Much
Some students genuinely like to pursue as many activities and social events as possible. They believe that choosing something means missing out on something else. Other students find their calendars overbooked without intentionally doing so. It does not matter your reason why; pushing yourself beyond reasonable limits will eventually lead to burnout and/or overwhelm. What’s reasonable to you is not reasonable to the next person. Everybody’s burnout/overwhelm symptoms may look different. You must decide how much you can handle while caring for your health and vitality.
1. Recognize Burnout/Overwhelm
Are you mostly enjoying your journey? Given all the positives and negatives, are you mostly satisfied with recent choices you have made? Do you look forward to the future? Have you found a balance between school, sleep, fun time and down time? If you can’t answer yes to all these questions, find the answer to, “why not and what can I control here?”
2. Zoom Out on your Life
It may be easy to get caught up in distractions as they are plentiful around campus. I’d like to offer a few question for you to seriously consider. Given all your activities, tasks and obligations, which ones will propel and nourish your future? Which ones are counter-productive to your future? I suggest you consider how your actions fall into these categories. Write or type the answers out and have a look as if you’re zooming out on your life. Are you trying to do too much?
Discipline and motivation is necessary to constrain down. If you zoomed out on your life and decided it’s time to slow down, try shortening activities or eliminating unnecessary actions. This will look different for everybody. Some will have to reduce time spent on their committees, organizations or volunteer work. Others may have to constrain their social media, their jobs or their TV time. So, how does a person constrain activities away? You ask yourself how necessary, how vital these tasks & activities are to your health, your future and your life balance.