Post #62 Everyone is Susceptible to Loneliness
Whether you’re an introverted shy student or an extroverted social butterfly, you may suffer from loneliness. It can affect anyone no matter your grades, your number of friends or your personality. Read this post for tips to help you combat the state of being a lonely engineering student.
Be Interested, Not Interesting
Sometimes people crave the attention of others. If you are craving attention or if you feel that you must be liked, I have some news for you. People who seek attention can come across as being … well, desperate! Obviously, there are varying degrees to which people seek attention. But if you are a person who is always wondering, “What do they think of me”, you might be acting desperately. If you think to yourself, “I wonder what I can do to get them to like me”, you might be acting desperately. Which is the opposite of what you want! Instead, I suggest you show interest in others. Ask people about themselves. Engage in and create a conversation that is all about them (see Post #26). If you try too hard to be interesting, you may come off as being needy. Focus on others instead of yourself.
Learn to Like Yourself
Does this sound strange to you? If it does, then pay special attention. If you are unable to be alone with yourself, it’s time to set aside some time for you. I challenge you to make a list of all the reasons why you like who you are. Don’t worry about boasting or about being arrogant. It will be awkward at first. Honestly, when is the last time you thought about you, and when is the last time you admired yourself? There is so much chaos with your classes, roommates, activities, etc., and you’re being pulled in many directions. If you don’t like yourself, why would you expect others to like you? My point here is that you must lead by example. Learn to like and accept who you are. Then, you can enjoy your own company.
Learn to Love Yourself
What the heck does this mean? It means exactly what it states: learn to love yourself for who you are. Because when you love yourself for who you are, everything else will fall into place. I’m not stating that you won’t have problems or that you won’t go through tough times. However, your life is dependent upon how you treat yourself. If you act unkind to yourself or sabotage your goals, it is probably because you are not loving yourself. Loving you means not beating yourself up. It means forgiving yourself when you fell short or said the wrong thing. Loving yourself means accepting all your faults along with all your uniqueness and strengths. It means you can get up and try again when you fail. Loving you is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. When you can master the art of loving exactly who you are, your contributions to the world will be unstoppable.
To prevent yourself from being a lonely engineering student, I have 3 suggestions. First, be interested and not interesting. Second, like yourself. Third, love yourself.